Thursday, April 24, 2014

Why I Wanna Pull My Hair Out, When Woman Say All Other Woman Are "Catty Bitches"

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I was at a social event not too long ago, chatting up some ladies. We were all getting our gab on, when one of the woman said she doesn't hang out with other woman. Doesn't get along with them. "Most woman are just too catty, and bitchy, I rather hang out with the guys."  was her rationalization for this comment. I really wasn't sure what this broad was getting at, because she was indeed hanging out with other woman. Plus we are all in our thirties, so I kinda thought we were past this kind of silly comments.  I decided to ask her why, oh why, was she chatting with the likes of us then.

"I'm not saying you ladies....its all other women in general" was her response.

I hear this a little to often then I would like. Woman claiming that they much rather hang with the drama free guys, then the gossipy girls. That other woman are too catty, too bitchy, too much drama.

I call bullshit.

Those who read my blog know I'm a total girls girl. So when I hear another woman bashing woman in general,  it pisses me right the fuck off.

Who other than a girlfriend can relate to:

Mood swings, cramps, and all other things period related..............................

The need for the perfect bra, your secret stash of "granny panties", and the million anti-aging products sitting in your drawer................ 

Stretch marks, hair in places it shouldn't be, the art of de-hairing ourselves,  and the desperate need for chocolate.

I'm not saying there are not catty, "too much drama for your mama", woman out there...of course there are. I just have a hard time believing every single women is a catty bitch. I'm not saying I don't love to hang out with the  guys. My guy friends rock, and (pre -19 month old that refuses to sleep through the night) I use to love hitting up a pub with them.  But there is also a slew of asshole men out there too. Furthermore,  I would take a night on the town with my best gals over the pub any day of the week. Fuck, I would take face masks, wine, movies and a box of chocolates with my sisters over hanging with the boys. Us woman should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down.  We are too dam strong, and too dam smart to be spurting out comments like "All woman are catty bitches".

Now before you send me hate mail stating shit like "I disagree, I hang out with men because of whatever fucking reason, and women are just catty".  Just wait. If you indeed are that person that would much rather hang out with guys then girls. That's fine. But why the need to voice it? Why don't you just do it and leave out the comments. Is it really necessary to say "All women are drama, catty, bitchy" , blah blah, blah. Cause I hate to break it to ya, but when you say those things, your being just as catty. Just as bitchy. Comments like that start just as much drama.

I'm thinking if a woman was bitchy with you, she was probably on her period.....and com'on, can't you totally relate?



Shauna Lynn








10 comments:

  1. Shauna, I think often times when a woman says something like that it makes me think that she might be the type that can't get along with other women and she herself is a drama queen. I work with 10 women and am happy to say my work place is one of the funnest places ever! Everyone gets along so well and there is much laughter!

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  2. A big fat LIKE to the comment above. When a woman says she'd rather hang out with the guys than other women, it's a huge red flag. HUGE. Because when women say shit like that, it means they can't get along with other women. And it's probably because they're a catty bitch.

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  3. I find that I have tended to have more male friends than female friends in my life - but it isnt because women are catty. It is because when I was single, I didn't want to be in competition for the scarce resource of (DECENT, AWESOME) single men!

    Now that I am older and all settled down, I am started to have more female friends than male friends. But again, that is life circumstance. It doesn't make my husband feel great if I go out for a night on the town with the guys - and really, guys care that my husband has annoyed me FOR THE FINAL TIME!!! My girlfriends can relate with my marriage vents...

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    1. Yeah, some women do have male friends, maybe even more so than female friends.....and thats totally cool. My problem is saying that all women are "bitches, or catty". And your totally right....girlfriends can relate better to marriage vents!! Thanks for stopping by!

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  4. My best friend is a guy. Not because I hate women, but because my exotic animals is what usually what sends women running from me. I'm not someone they want to be friends with - their fears are more important. For that... yeah I guess I have a problem with the vast majority of women. It does hurt a bit that they judge me so harshly based on their own ignorant views of what is "scary." Like we can't go get coffee because I'm going to throw a fucking tarantula on their plate or something.

    It'd be great to have someone I could talk to about "girl" stuff with, but no. I'm too weird/scary. I wouldn't refer to them as catty or bitchy, but close-minded for sure, and I'm not really sure that's better. I would hate to be judged for having mostly male friends; it's not like I haven't made an attempt to make friends with women. I'm just not "girly" enough apparently.

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    1. Not judging you for having mostly male friends. I just don't like the "all women are bitches" type comments. Its funny that you say they don't like your exotic animals....I just interviewed a girl at my job that told me she has studied exotic animals for ten years!! I thought that was interesting!

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  5. OMG, I love you. And I love this. So very glad that you stopped by from SITS Sharefest so I could read this piece of hilarity :)

    YES, I have such an issue with women who assume that other women are all catty. Don't get me wrong--I've met quite a few over the years. But those women? Are not my friends. I don't know where I would be without strong, supportive, understanding, and caring women in my life.

    Thank you for this :)

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    1. Thanks for the compliment!! Love the girl love!

      Also I really enjoyed reading your blog......great writing! :)

      Thanks for the stop by!

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